So I'll write in the blog.
There is a man I work with who puts an interesting quote on his gtalk every day. Most times they are pretty cool quotes. His current one is:
"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future." - Paul Boese
Hmm. I'm not sure I agree with that one. I forgive my friends and family - that's easy to do. Usually when they tick me off I know it is because they are just trying to look out for my best interests. I can see how that would enlarge the future - maybe they are giving me good advice that I just can't see because I'm too close.
But forgiving a stranger or someone I don't know very well, that is hard. How do I do that? I I know if I don't it will only piss me off; give me ulcers. The person who wronged me goes on his or her merry way while I stew. I know this, it makes sense, its perfectly logical, but I can't do it. The left side of the brain, buying into the idea; is ready to forgive. The right side keeps coming up with reasons for not doing it.
And, now that I think about it, the hardest person to forgive is myself. I keep working through scenarios - what if I had done this or that, what if I had called, what if, what if, what if, what if?
I will have to think about this quote some more. Really roll it around in the gray matter. Right now, its back to the report.
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