Being single is a lot wiser than being in a WRONG relationship!

At the risk of being accused of being a weak, dependant, needy woman, I'm going to have to break bad and disagree with this statement.

I've seen this posted on facebook page by various friends, all of which, except for one, are not single. They have been happily married since their 20s, or are in and have been in long term relationships for a long time. Do y'all even remember what is was like to be single? Do you even remember what is was like to be single for long periods of time? I'm not talking weeks or months, I'm talking years, decades.

Do you remember a time when you took your "coupled" friends' advice and "just treated yourself and when out to dinner by yourself." Do you remember what it feels like to have the owner of the place offer to buy you a drink at the bar because, "I really need this booth." You need this booth for the couples waiting in line. Was my money not green enough? I just spent about $40.00 in your place. (The government thinks my money is greener; as a single I pay more in taxes than marrieds.) Do you ever get tired of hearing "just one" when you walk into a restaurant?

And what exactly is a "WRONG" relationship? If the statement was "Its better to be single than to be with a partner who uses you as a punching bag." or "Its better to be single than to be in a relationship where your partner is stealing from your bank account." then I would be all in.

But simply saying "WRONG"; not so much. Is a "WRONG" relationship one in which your mate worries about you but you define that at jealousy? How about if your mate is giving you good advice like "sure you could handle going back to school" or "they won't know what a good employee you are until you are gone". Do you call that "trying to change me, trying to run my life". Or is a "WRONG" relationship one defined by money, possessions, looks? For people enmeshed in this bling culture a statement like this simply gives them an excuse. "He's just wrong for me, he doesn't have a job, any money, enough time for me.

How many "WRONG" relationships could have turned into "RIGHT" relationships if only the parties had compromised and worked together. "Baby I know finals are coming up, maybe we can do something to celebrate when they are done." "I know you're broke, I have some burgers in the freezer, let's just grill them and chill out tonight." "I don't like musicals, but I'll go with you to see Cats. I know how important it is to you."

I type this on a Saturday night at Starbucks. Single. Alone. Its the same thing I did Friday night and it will probably be the same thing I do Sunday night.

Which is really the lesser of two evils?